Sunday, September 12, 2010

The season of grief...

When God created the world he specifically created it with four seasons in every year. As the world goes round and life continues to exist we will be faced with each season every year. This is a simple fact. It is a fact I have tried to avoid since last fall when our sweet little Ian flew to the arms of Jesus. My grieving heart has wanted to avoid the season of fall as I was all too aware of the emotions it would bring to me. It is a fact that the season of fall is upon us now. The season of fall, which used to be my favorite season of the year, has crept back into my life with the very vivid and heartwrenching memories of Ian's last days with his mommy and daddy on earth. The late afternoon coolness reminds me daily of our golf-cart rides together. The early morning crispness reminds me of me walking outside with Ian holding him and singing amazing grace. The weekend football games remind me of his first auburn football game we took him to in Auburn with his MimE and PapE and his girlfriend Ella Kathryn. I actually tend to forget as I watch football that Ian isn't just at his Pops and Nonnie's house watching the game like he did many weekends. I easily think he is coming home to me after the game is over and then I am jolted back to the reality of my life...he is with Jesus.

Needless to say...the days are hard right now. In less than a month it will be the one year anniversary of the worst day of my life. It will be the anniversary of the day a large portion of my heart was carried to heaven with my one and only child. It is the anniversary of the day my world was turned upside down and inside out. The day when I started living life in "the club" with grieving parents. The day I ceased to care about many mundane things in this world. It will be the day I will remember as the worst day of my life forever.

On a better note...I am still loving my job. I am thankful God placed me at a school with loving and caring teachers and administration. I am thankful for the thoughtful and caring parents of the children in my class. I am thankful for my very own Junie B. Jones who tells me 10 times a day "I just love you Ms.Mary" I am thankful to have a job I love where I can pour my heart and soul into it and see the appreciation on 20 sweet little faces. I am thankful to feel loved by 20 children even though I can't feel the love from my sweet Ian anymore.

The next few weeks are going to be incredibly hard for our family. I am asking you to flood the gates of heaven with prayers for strength and understanding. I am asking for prayers of peace in a time of such turmoil.



  1. Mary,
    I continue to keep up with you and pray for peace. You've never met me but, I am yet another person precious Ian's life touched. Your story has touched more lives than you will ever know. Stay strong and know that people all over the county are lifting up prayers for you and Wae.

    God Bless, hugs and prayers,
    Melany Harmon
    Montevallo, Alabama

  2. I pray for you often and will continue to do so. I started reading your entries on your Caring Bridge. I remember my heart overflowing with joy along with you when you would describe the good days and Ian's sweet giggles and I remember feeling the sorrow in your words when you would describe the bad days and his discomfort. I also remember the day you posted of his passing and the tears that flowed down my cheeks when I read those words. As a mother I grieved for you, a stranger with whom the only thing I have in common is that I am also a mother.

    I pray that the Lord comforts your shattered heart and that little by little with each season of grief that comes your heart heal a little more and then little more.

  3. Your family is in our prayers. I pray that god will wrap his arms around you during this time.


  4. Will be praying for all of you during this difficult season.


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